(thought I posted this a long time ago. Found this in Drafts, but am nearly certain I already published something similar. sorry if it’s a repeat.)
Who said this? NOBODY in the Bible, that’s for certain. God didn’t say it. Jesus didn’t.
Who does say this? Lots of people. People who are either trying to derive some sort of comfort from it, or people who are trying to be comforting.
But let’s call it what it is. It’s bullshit.
It’s also NOT COMFORTING. What’s the takeaway message there? That you should be able to handle this because God wouldn’t have given it to you if you couldn’t. That’s, um, not very comforting.
And where does God say this? Where does God say that He think YOU can handle things – anything – on your own? It doesn’t say that anywhere!!
Because, you know what? You can’t! You can’t. Say that right now with me – I cannot handle this. You can’t. I can’t. I cannot handle Teddy’s kidney failure on my own. You cannot handle whatever you’re struggling with on your own. You can’t. Doesn’t it feel good to say that all out loud like that? To give yourself permission to admit that you cannot handle it?
OF COURSE God gives you more than you can handle!
He never gives you more than HE can handle.
Because it’s not about YOU. It’s about HIM. There’s nothing too big for God to handle.
The kicker here, of course, for the Christian (which is clearly who this post is aimed at) is to LET God handle it. I know I personally excel at giving things to God, for like 10 minutes, and then I say, “hey, God, you know what? I’ll just take that back. Thanks.”
Think about Jesus. Jesus even struggled with this the night before he was crucified – his soul was sorrowful to the point of death. And that was Jesus!! You are not Jesus. I am not Jesus.
For all of you reading this who have ever uttered that phrase, “God never gives you more than you can handle” in an attempt to be comforting, how about if you just never say it again? Instead, share the message with those you love that God DOES give people more than they can handle. But he never gives them more than HE can handle.
A few months ago, a friend passed along this excellent post on the same subject.